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Volume 7 - Issue 1
Sexual Advice and Consulting

Ask Analise - SexHerald.com Advice Let's face it - everybody's got a question or two when it comes to sex. But when you're smack in the middle of a sexual predicament, who can you turn to for some solid no-nonsense advice? If you fear your friends might think you're a freak, and your mother might faint on the floor, then why not ask Thalia? Chances are, if you are wondering about it, then so is somebody else in the room.

Got a question about your sex life? Don't be shy, and don't die wondering. Send your quandaries and curiosities to: SexHerald.

Dear SexHerald Advisor,

In porn, guys going back and forth between women’s vaginas and anuses and it looks damn hot. I want to try it, but my girlfriend says it would cause infections. There must be some way to do it, right?

Jeremy

 

Dear Jeremy,

As a rule, anything that has been inside the anus cannot go in the vagina without an extremely thorough cleaning. You could just change your condom every time you want to switch holes, but that is not particularly sexy.

Your other option is to use female condoms. Though more expensive than male condoms (the type that’s worn on the penis), female condoms have many perks. They go inside the woman and, when correctly inserted, mold to her vaginal walls and stay there, creating a more natural feel for both partners.

Female condoms can also be used for anal sex. Simply remove the small, inner ring, use plenty of lube, and insert the condom into the anus. This way, you will easily be able to switch between anal and vaginal intercourse without spreading any infection-causing bacteria. If you are monogamous and have both been tested, you can use just one female condom, in the anus. I, however, recommend putting a condom in each hole.

Please keep in mind that this back-and-forth business is not for beginners. Make sure both partners are very comfortable with anal sex before attempting this pornographic endeavor.


Dear SexHerald Advisor,

I’ve been hearing that syphilis is making a comeback. What the hell?

William

 

Dear William,

Syphilis his, indeed, made a comeback in recent years. Along with Chlamydia and gonorrhea, it is among the most common sexually transmitted diseases in the United States. Syphilis is, however, more dangerous than many of the other easily contractible diseases, as it is can be fatal if left untreated. The easiest way to avoid syphilis is to practice safe sex and get screened regularly. There are, however, some groups that are more at risk than others.

According to the latest data released by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, African Americans accounted for as many as half of all syphilis cases in the U.S. Similarly, almost half of new syphilis infections occurred in 15-to 24-year-olds. Additional groups at risk are gay men (63 percent of all cases) and the elderly. Almost all of these groups are known, as a generality, to have limited sexual education with regard to sexually transmitted diseases. There have been noted outbreaks in North Carolina, Minnesota and the Washington D.C area, but the number of cases nationwide jumped 18% from 2007 to 2008.

What does this mean for you and potential partners? Well, you are going to need to be careful. It sounds simplistic, but the answer to quelling the rash of STDs (yes, you can laugh at that) really is that simple. Syphilis is not seasonal, nor is it avoidable by getting a vaccine or a treatment; all you can do is practice safe sex, be discerning about choosing partners and get screened for STDs regularly, preferably every six months.


Dear SexHerald Advisor,

I really want my boyfriend to be a little rough while we’re having sex, but he says can’t do it because he respects me too much. That’s sweet, but frustrating! What should I do?

Annie

Dear Annie,

Short answer? He'll probably get over it. Speaking with a certain level of experience in this matter, I can say that the first time a guy hears his girlfriend ask for some rough play, it can be a bit unsettling, especially if he doesn't have any prior history with it. The main thing is to be persistent. You should have a talk with him outside of the bedroom about why you like what you like, and exactly how it turns you on. Do you like to feel dominated? Like your man is in complete control? Do you enjoy feeling helpless in his arms? Tell him these things. There is a very good chance that he will find them sexy as well and begin to take steps toward giving you what you want.

Once you've talked, you should move the conversation into the bedroom. Ask for what you want -- specifically, but not too clinically. I will leave the specifics to you, but try to work some dirty talk into what you are asking for. Be reassuring, supportive and patient, and most of all, don't focus too much on getting him to do exactly what you want and forget to enjoy the rest of the experience.

Be warned, however, that some guys will just not be able to get over their hesitation. Think of it like a fetish that he just doesn't enjoy. There is nothing stopping him from giving you what you want from time to time, but if that's what ends up happening, be sure to not make him do it all the time. It's not a crime to enjoy different things, but you will certainly need to take it into account when assessing your bedroom compatibility.




Note: This advice is purely the opinion of the SexHerald.com advice column writer(s), and does not necessarily reflect the views or positions of any owners, management, shareholders, writers, or staff of SexHerald.com, and is not intended to take the place of any professional advice that you may seek or receive from a licensed counselor.




Monthly Highlights
After Hours
Little Trouble with Big Brother: An Interview with Paul ‘Max Hardcore’ Little
Ron Jeremy: A Swinging (Dick) Legend and Feminist?
Dian Hanson: The Queen of Pornography
What the #@%!: Ellen Sussman on Dirty Words

Aphrodisiacs
Pine nuts: Aphrodite's festive treat
Salep: Turkey’s Gift to Mankind
Love Potion No. 9… Minus the Gross Ingredients!
Testicles: Invigorating Wonder Balls For Lovers Who Crave More

Books
The Slow Fix: Stories
8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex for a Lifetime
Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire

Booze
Leinenkugel Oktoberfest Beer
Gekkeikan Plum Sake
Bex 2006 Riesling

Features
Let’s Hear it for the Boys: Girls Who Love Gay Porn
A Cure for Hysteria? Vibrators and Other Sex Toys in History
Six Sexy Women That Should Be in Porn

Films
Pussy A Go Go
Chocolate Covered Asians
Big Loves 5
Twinks Love Twannies

Health
Non-Hormonal Contraceptives: Are They as Effective as Their Hormonal Counterparts at Preventing Pregnancy?
Taking It In and Getting It Up: How Substance Use Affects Sexual Arousal
The Sexual Health Benefits of Circumcision
LEEP: One Treatment Option for Women with HPV

Sex Toys
Night Moves Cyberskin Lust
Fingertip Massager
Adam & Eve SensaFirm Ripple Probe

Taboo
More than Décor
Nine-Month Fetish
Fantasy and Infidelity: Where Do the Lines Cross?
Politics of Pulling Out: The Facial Conundrum

Websites
Ten.com
ClubSapphic.com
YoungHotLatinos.com
GeekGirlSex.com

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