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Volume 7 - Issue 1
Ron Jeremy: A Swinging (Dick) Legend and Feminist?
By: SexHerald Staff

Ron Jeremy is simultaneously ubiquitous and elusive. From his New York Times bestselling autobiography, Ron Jeremy: The Hardest (Working) Man in Showbiz, to Porn Star: The Legend of Ron Jeremy, a documentary pieced together from choice moments of his life, it’s safe to say the public is inundated with enough material on the AVN’s number one porn star of all time. With an estimated 4,000 women on his bedpost notch, he’s certainly popular with the ladies and he proudly admits in his book that he’s never had an STD in his life. He’s been known to rub shoulders with A-list celebrities and rock stars and recently made several cameos in both porn and mainstream media, and continues to gain ground in the mainstream arena. But who exactly is Ron Jeremy?

Chances are, we may never know the man behind the 9 ¾-inch schlong (or as Ron likes to say, “It’s 2 inches… from the floor!”) but we do know this: He’s a smart, funny, loyal, and a genuinely nice Jewish boy from Queens who just wants to have fun. A true lover of showbiz, one can’t find a more idealistic actor in the entertainment industry who, at times, may feel underappreciated and at 56 is still seeking that big break. SexHerald caught up with the famous porn veteran (“Do I get a purple heart?”) who was nice enough to regale us with stories of Plato’s Retreat and perhaps little-known facts of his life (did you know he was a feminist)?

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SexHerald: I had a chance to watch American Swing recently…

Ron Jeremy: Did you like it?

SH: It was interesting. I’m wondering as to why Magnolia Home Entertainment decided to take this part of history and make a film out of it.

Jeremy: They [Miramax] made a movie called Studio 54 [1998], with Mike Myers, Salma Hayek, which, by the way I’m in. I have a couple of lines in that film, because I was part of that era as well, and also the Woodstock era which was a similar part of the period, and this comes a little bit later… it was all part of the sexual revolution—the whole anti-Vietnam War, hippie-dippie flower children type thing. Plato’s [Retreat] came at a very good time. After the [sexual] revolution, it became an alternate lifestyle where people can be emotionally monogamous but not necessarily physically monogamous. The thing is, the best known club in the world is Plato’s. It got started but it didn’t get really known—no one really knew what this world was all about—until Larry [Levinson] went on talk shows, celebrities went to Plato’s and talked about it. It stands up there alongside Woodstock, Studio 54, Plato’s Retreat, and now you’ve got American swing… it’s up there as a cult phenomenon coming out of the East Coast, coming out of New York.

SH: In terms of swinging, do you think the phenomenon is still relevant to today’s generation?

Jeremy: It goes on so much that it almost blends into the woodwork in a way. You hear all these rock stars on talk shows: ‘Oh yeah, my god, my girl is great, so I bring home a woman once in a while.’ It’s said so casually and it’s so accepted. That was the whole thing about Plato’s. It was about letting someone else into your romance—another physical person comes into your relationship. They talk about it on TV like it’s no big deal. Every major rock star will say that, with the exception of Alice Cooper who’s remained monogamous through his whole marriage. Other than him, all the rock stars talk about it. ‘I’ve got the greatest wife, I’ve got the greatest woman, I’ll bring a girl once in a while or she’ll bring a girl once in a while, and occasionally I’ll do a little swinging.’ It’s almost like it’s accepted in that aspect.

They don’t call themselves swingers but they’re kind of doing that same kind of lifestyle. Whenever you let a third or fourth party, being a couple, into your romance, that’s kind of like swinging. It’s kind of what Larry Levinson was all about.

SH: Do you consider yourself a swinger?

Jeremy: Kind of, I guess—yes.

SH: How many times have you been to Plato’s Retreat?

Jeremy: A LOT. I can’t give you the numbers but I really did go there a lot just to hang out with Larry. They had a nice buffet, and then I’d just go and sleep on the mattress because I had an early appointment in the morning in New York. He was so good to me, because he’d let me park my car. It’s so hard to park in New York. It was $40 to park even back then. He would let me park my car for free at Plato’s and I’d run around trying to get into the theater, or trying to get into plays or comedy clubs and all. He was right in the middle in midtown when he left the Ansonia Hotel and went over to 34th Street. It was great! He couldn’t have begged for a better place. It was so perfect to leave my car there, or leave my motorcycle there, and we’d run around and do our things.

We spent hours talking. There was sex going on and that. We would hang out in the mattress room. It was just a very comfortable atmosphere: food, lovely showers, a Jacuzzi, a pool—it was just a great place to hang out. Okay, if you’re going to have sex that’s great, too, but if you don’t, there’s a Jacuzzi, a pool, you’ve got a buffet, you’ve got a great TV set to watch a movie. It was a real nice place to go at night for people who don’t have jobs in the morning.

SH: In the behind the scenes portion of American Swing, you mentioned something about spiritual monogamy, which doesn’t equate with physical monogamy. Can you expound on that?

Jeremy: Me and Gene Simmons both said this on The View a few weeks apart. A lot of Hollywood celebrities are known swingers, I guess. I won’t give you any names but Gene and I believe we can be emotionally monogamous to one person only but physically non-monogamous, where there’s some kind of relationship outside the marriage which is agreed upon by both husband and wife, or boyfriend and girlfriend.

SH: Are you in such a relationship now?

Jeremy: Right now, I’m not.

SH: Having been a porn star for several years, I’m sure you’ve been exposed to different alternatives than a typical monogamous relationship. Nina Hartley was involved in a triad relationship with her husband and another woman for many years. Do you have such incidences in your past relationships? Care to share any stories with us?

Jeremy: I didn’t have it quite like her. I was married to three people but I’d say pretty much most of my life…in fact, the vast majority of my relationships—I’ve had five serious relationships—in all those, it was agreed upon that while I was traveling a bit that we could have physical relationships with others unemotionally. As they call it in rock n’ roll, some “strange” is okay but no walking on a park holding hands, no going to a mountaintop looking at the scenery, no taking a boat ride together or a canoe ride, no cuddling, no romantic candlelight dinners—that’s bad, no. That would make me jealous. If I had a wife or girlfriend, or when I had relationships, if they messed around physically I could handle that; we agreed upon that. If they cuddled overnight, it’d break my heart; it’ll kill me.

SH: Quoting you from American Swing again, you said women seem to initiate and propagate one-night stands nowadays whereas men did so in the past…

Jeremy: Women do it now all the time. We even have a term that never existed when I was a kid, an expression called “boy toy,” where the girl knows it’s a physical thing and goodbye. I think it’s great. I’ve seen guys call me on the phone and say, ‘Man, we had great sex, she seemed to really enjoy it and I want to go out with her again. She just stopped talking to me, she avoids me, she’s not seeing someone else.’ ‘Well, she had a good time and she ran. You were a one-night stand. Congratulations.’ Back in my generation, guys did that a lot. It’s nice that girls caught up with that aspect.

Let me tell you something: I’ve never seen a case in my life where a woman couldn’t slam dunk any number of guys whether they’re in their 40s, 50s or 60s. Maybe there are a few exceptions out there but I’m going to make a generalization I’ll stand by: A woman’s sex drive, a woman’s libido, and her sexual power can destroy a man. I’ve never seen a man that can keep up. In fact, now with Viagra maybe they can, with Cialis.

The whole thing about sheikhs having many wives, and some of these polygamists... you’ve got to be kidding me. In reality, a wife can have many men and she won’t be satisfied. In a weird way, that one sheikh that can satisfy lots of women can barely satisfy his hand! Whereas one woman can probably satisfy many men when they reach their 40s, 50s or 60s, because her sex drive is way more powerful. Men lose it in their 40s and dang, women aren’t even started yet. I’ve never seen a case where—I’ll arbitrarily start at 40—a woman wasn’t more powerful than the man. The woman wants to go longer whereas the man, after he’s treated to a nice orgasm, he wants to release gas, burp and sleep till Christmas. [laughs]

SH: If men can’t apparently keep up with a woman’s libido, why do you think this fantasy exists of a man having several women at once?

Jeremy: Every guy I’ve talked to, according to my dad who’s 91, who still messes around as if he was a young man of course, they’re still wanting some good nookie, even through their 80s and 90s.

SH: Men shouldn’t be that jealous of women. Men seem to age better than women.

Jeremy: That’s because society is just making them look that way, which is also really unfair if you think about it. Only in Hollywood can a man be a grandfather and still get a romantic leading role—look at Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones. When a woman gets past 30, she can barely get new roles anymore. Hollywood, I think, gives a very bad attitude. A woman can be sexy until they drop. I think women age just as well as men do, if not even better. It’s that masculine attitude: a man keeps better looking as he gets old, a woman can’t. Yeah, who wrote that rule? Probably a guy! [laughs]

SH: Who knew you were such a feminist!

Jeremy: My mom was probably an original feminist. I was born and raised by a woman who was in the OSS [Office of Strategic Services] in World War II, who essentially made her a spy. She was given a cyanide capsule in case she was captured; she was given an honorary rank of lieutenant, in case she was captured she would have been treated with respect by the enemy. Being a Jewish woman, she would have had a hard time being captured by the Germans. She flew all over the world as a decoder, a cryptographer, and a spy.

She came back to America and worked at the New York Times as a classifier; she was a proofreader for various publishing houses; she was going to become a third grade teacher if it wasn’t for Parkinson’s. This was a woman who graduated from Queens College, which is where I went. First graduating class of Queens, because a lot of women back in that era did not go to college; it was very rare. She raised three children, too. I dedicated my autobiography to her; in the first few pages, I praised my parents for raising three kids who don’t touch drugs, who don’t drink, who don’t smoke and who all have Master’s degrees. I was raised by an original feminist, which may have shaped my opinions.

SH: What do you ultimately want to do in the remaining time that you have?

Jeremy: I want to get married and have children. I know it’s late in life. I’m ready to have kids; I’ve saved up for it. Ultimately, I love doing movies. I want to be an actor until the day I die.


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