Title: Your Long Erotic Weekend Author: Edited by Lana Holstein, M.D. & David Taylor, M.D. Publisher: Fair Winds Press Publish Date: 2004 Pages: 22 Genres:: How-To Guide, Non-Fiction Reviewer: J. Henry

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Doctors Holstein and Taylor have been married for 30 years, and are the directors of a sex workshop that focuses on true tantric sex. Your Long Erotic Weekend is basically a written blue print of the four days you’d experience when attending one of their workshops. These workshops are designed to help sexually frustrated or uninhibited couples gain more from their sexual relationships.

The doctors begin by emphasizing the importance of love, and how this trickles into good sex. By recognizing sex as a spiritual activity rather than a commodity, it can become more precious to those involved. In the first section, readers learns about various random couples and their own experiences as they went through the “long weekend.” This sections also includes a test that partners can take (and retake) that measures their relation to the seven dimensions of sex: Biological, Sensual, Desire, Intimacy, Heart, Aesthetic, and Ecstatic.

The book is then divided into different assignments to be completed over the course of the four-day weekend. The first day sets the reader up what to prepare for and expect when it comes to tantric sex. It is essential that participants understand that this isn’t about wild sex games or interesting positions, like in the Kama Sutra. Tantric sex relies on the unfamiliarity of the familiar (i.e. your partner) and on learning how to absorb and worship the other’s energy.

Day two focuses on honoring the goddess in the female. A woman must recognize her levels of arousal and her ability to amrita (ejaculate). When honoring the goddess, couples are encouraged to focus on the female’s emotional and physical needs when it comes to arousal. By maintaining eye contact while focusing on her yoni (clitoris), moving on to the g-spot can cause an intense orgasm that does not require penetrative intercourse, but is due to the energy built between the partners by concentrating on each other.

Day three is about pleasuring the man and reveling in his god. As the couple is pleasuring the god they must become more familiar with the male anatomy in order to intensify arousal. Couples are encouraged to pay attention to the PC muscle, as it “enhances the accumulation of sexual energy” when one applies pressure and delves into this rarely utilized area of his body. Afterward, there are detailed steps offered on how to pleasure his lingam (penis).

As the reader learns more about tantric sex, he receives updates on the couples that were introduced at the outset. Their successes and frustrations are detailed after each exercise, so that the reader can gain a better understanding of what to expect.

The weekend is wrapped up by repeating all of the exercises and tests that have been taken over the past few days. The true achievement of the weekend will be in figuring out how to apply what was helpful into everyday life.

This book is worth a read for bored or troubled couples, but only if they are willing to make the effort to enact all of the suggestions, and to try and incorporate the energy exercises into their lives. You can’t go halfway with Your Long Erotic Weekend.