Title: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women: Second Edition Author: Tristan Taormino Publisher: Cleis Press Publish Date: 2006 Pages: 220 Genres:: How-To Guide, Sexual Health/Women Reviewer: J. Henry

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It’s been eight years since the first edition of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women was published, and author Tristan Taormino somehow came up with more to add on the topic. While much of the new edition includes updates, there’s also new information provided from Taormino’s tours around the country on the subject. She has become an "ass master," so to speak, through her lecturing: “Through teaching [anal sex] classes, being asked questions I didn’t know the answer to, having lots more anal sex, I have learned so much more.”

She continues to squash the myths affiliated with anal penetration, such as “Straight men who like anal sex are gay” (no) and “Women don’t like anal sex” (depends on the woman, but sex overall should be a pleasurable experience). She also adds further insight on the importance of lubrication (preferably water-based) since the anus does not sufficiently self-lubricate and reiterates the point that “if it hurts, you’re doing something wrong.” There are so many topics to cover when it comes to anal sex--our anatomy, cleanliness, BDSM, sex toys, tongue play, etc.--that each issue is explored through its own chapter. In the BDSM chapter, a question is posed about the pleasure of BDSM and the sensitivity of the anus. While Taormino emphasizes that there should be no pain in anal sex, she also accepts that some find the most sensuality through pain and insists that those who pursue bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism be careful and not push their bodies too hard.

The same precautions and judgments that one makes in regards to vaginal sex should also be taken into account for anal sex. Lubrication, protection, toys, hygiene, and being mindful of what stimulates your partner are all important for an enjoyable experience by all. The information that Taormino provides makes the second edition of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women seem more like a general sex education book than one that focuses solely on anal sex. Don’t let the title fool you. The content doesn’t make this a book geared towards women only. Men become more educated and learn how to further enjoy anal sex with their female partner as well.

The second edition of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women is an invaluable resource for both those curious about anal sex and those who are already experienced. The first edition is still one of the most comprehensive volumes on anal sex out there, but the second one follows in its traditions, answering questions that can seem embarrassing when, in truth, many people have experienced some of the same trials.

Taormino initially wrote The Ultimate Guide because the information available on this subject was not substantial. While more titles have been published since then, they are still not as comprehensive as this guide. By covering everything from the various kinds of enemas available, diseases that can spread sex, methods for anal masturbation, various types of butt plugs, how to properly clean sex toys, and anal fisting, Taormino’s friendly and insightful personality transcends on the page, educating her reader while at the same time confirming that no one should consider themselves abnormal for enjoying a common sexual act.