Title: The Celestial Sexpot's Handbook Author: Kiki T. Publisher: Warner Books Publish Date: 2007 Pages: 298 Genres:: Non-Fiction, How-To Guide, Self-Help Reviewer: Layla Tichtchenko

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Kiki T’s reputation as an astrosexologist is clearly illustrated in TheCelestial Sexpot’s Handbook. This neologism is well suited for her approach to astrology as a key to sexuality and dating enlightenment. Kiki T. embraces the astrological aspects of people’s personalities as a means of searching for their hidden traits. She confidently expounds on the theory that anyone can utilize basic astrology to gain a better understanding of prospective mates.

The Celestial Sexpot’s Handbook is all about the modern woman. It is an up-to-date manual for gleaning as much as you can from astrology in addition to your own natural charm. Kiki T. begins with the one fundamental question that you need to ask. That is: “When’s your birthday?” In her introduction, she is quick to point out that although she finds astrology useful it isn’t something which dictates her every action. She is firmly grounded in her belief in free will. She makes a clever analogy by comparing astrology to weather prediction. And like weather prediction, it’s about chances.

The chapters are broken down by each astrological sign. There are clever witticisms concerning each sign. She delves deep into the male psyche and ego. She offers suggestions on how to entertain each man, even what they may like to eat. It is almost a guide to appeasing or taming a wild animal. She goes on to tell us that the conversation topics and even the types of food are all things that you can hone in on if you have just a little understanding of your particular guy. Kiki T. says the aspects of each astrological sign are the key to understanding their likes and dislikes. You also need to know or be able to do a little research. It isn’t just as easy as knowing a date of birth. If you really want to get to know your man better, you will need details. You need to ask where they were born; not just when. You also need to ask them the time of birth. She indicates that astrology is not just about birthdays but also about individuals.

The “Icebreakers” list in each chapter would be very useful for people who are either rusty at dating or not very good at coming up with things to say. She offers a list of questions to get the ball rolling. You can find something to talk about, no matter what type of personality you’re dealing with. The questions go beyond mindless chit-chat. They could be saved for the second or third dates. She encourages role playing once you’ve reached the lover phase. She invites you to play to your lover’s desires. Miss Kiki tells us to get to know the things that excite the object of your affection. Kiki says to hone in on one of them to manipulate them, suggesting that they can be putty in your hands. She gives us pointers for drawing them in and getting them to stay.

She offers ways in which you can evoke more negative emotions in your man. You can make him sad or fearful or even doubt himself. These kinds of games are not for an advanced mind who sincerely wishes to find someone with whom to spend quality time. The tone of the book also seems to teeter between a slightly coarse vulgarity and a vague sensuality. These mostly manipulative strategies may have worked in high school but sophisticated people of intelligence shouldn’t have to stoop to such tactics. These divisive means of playing on his emotions seem insensitive and phony. And although I would recommend this book for its ideas on creative foreplay and conversation topics, anyone serious about dating or wanting more than a one-night-stand should be wary of the parts that tell you how to tick him off on purpose. And anyone who has respect for themselves and the other person should just look for another way.