Title: Sex With the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered Author: Ducky Doolittle Publisher: Carroll & Graf Publishers Publish Date: 2006 Pages: 300 Genres:: Self-Help, Non-Fiction, Sexual Health/Women Reviewer: SexHerald Staff

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Not every sex educator/journalist has spanked Howard Stern with a rubber chicken. Immensely popular and articulate, Ducky Doolittle takes the most squirmingly intimate and humiliating questions you’ve ever had about sex and makes you glad you asked; because she answers as them as warmly as if you’d asked her for a hug.

Sex With the Lights On fixes to get you hot by getting you informed, reassured, and warmly encouraged to pursue your passions with the most current information available. The author, who is in her mid 30s and bears a resemblance to Bettie Paige, has had a long career in the sex industry. She worked as a dominatrix and in a peep-show booth in Times Square. Her experiences on every side of the sex fence give her words serious weight.

Ducky wants you to have as happy a sex experience as possible and one of her chapters covers how to cultivate a better body image as well as her battle to see herself as beautiful not rip herself to pieces for being less than perfect. Ducky doesn’t only want to keep you sexually satisfied, she wants to keep you healthy. She knows HIV prevention backwards and forwards, and sideways. She is also a stickler for physical sexual safety and cautions you to always use a toy with a flared base to avoid it getting stuck or traveling into your body and getting lodged there. Centered around experiments she conducted and information she picked up when working at the sex toy shop Babeland, the book also contains many consumer tips on how to gauge the highest-quality products to meet your needs.

It’s easy to see how Ducky inspires fascination with her throwback-era beauty and expression that is both innocent and sultry, but not jaded. Her background on human reproductive anatomy is extensive and for sure, you will not reach the back cover of this book knowing less about the human anatomy and sex. For example, who knew that copious female ejaculators have exceptionally large urethral sponges? Doolittle dubs these women, hilariously,“stunt pussies.” There are two chapters devoted to the rewards of developing strong pelvic muscles through Kegel exercises for better orgasms, one for the guys, one for the girls. Like Freud, nothing human is alien to Ducky, and the rich variety of questions she’s included here reflect it. Her reassuring tone is backed up by the mission she’s undertaken to disseminate the most current protective and pleasure-enhancing data out there.  

Sex With the Lights On gets your questions answered, your fears put to rest and your appetite whetted.