Title: Sex Secrets of An American Geisha Author: Py Kim Conant Publisher: Hunter House Publishers Publish Date: 2007 Pages: 225 Genres:: Self-Help, Gender Studies, Non-Fiction Reviewer: SexHerald Staff

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If you’re a woman looking for love with a man, political correctness isn’t going to keep you warm at night but practicing “geisha consciousness” and going all out to enhance your femininity or yin ultimately might. That is writer Py Kim Conant ’s message. Conant writes movingly and candidly of her own failure to attract loving, stable, men; and the pain of being repeatedly rejected. She believes that her aggressive pursuit of them combined with her overweight size contributed profoundly to pushing them and happiness away.

Now happily married and a confirmed “feminine-ist,” she promises that by adopting the lifestyle she incorporated and allowing her to be your “Older Sister,” you will find a wonderful husband, or Good Man (her terminology). If you are already paired off, you will be able to reignite the relationship to both of your great satisfaction. Dominant throughout out the book is the truth she delivers lovingly but firmly: looks count. A lot.

Conant emphasizes her belief that men are very simple creatures and should their needs be skillfully met by the right, attractive woman, they will have no reason to stray or turn you gray. She makes very clear her position that her intention is to help women live the happiest, most exciting lives possible, not hobble them into being miserable slaves to male whims.

Conant illustrates clearly the difference between degrading puppy-dog eagerness to please a man out of a fear of not being liked as opposed to the joys of nurturing a worthy partner who responds in kind. She believes in an elegant display of female sexuality (if you wear a tight black skirt, keep it short, but not too short, etc.) and encourages strongly worshipping a man’s body and penis as that is satisfying one of his deepest needs. And in tribute to a fully appreciating all a woman’s body can do, she has a detailed section on how to achieve female ejaculation.

Loneliness is big business in America, right up there with cars, oil and pharmaceuticals. It would have been interesting to read how the geisha dynamic would interact between the lesbian community.

Words often considered vulgar feature prominently throughout these chapters, but in Conant’s view, the real vulgarity is in living an unfulfilled life. It’s tough to argue with her there, or anyone who’s written a book to help you have more sex, more love and an all around better quality of life and sense of self.